A Guy’s Guide to Performing and Perfecting Cunnilingus
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A Guy’s Guide to Performing and Perfecting Cunnilingus

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cun·ni·lin·gus [kuhn-l-ing-guhs] -noun
the act or practice of orally stimulating the female genitals.

a sexual activity in which the female genitalia are stimulated by the partner’s lips and tongue
New Latin, from Latin cunnus vulva + lingere to lick] Oral sex; once taboo, has upwards of 80% of couples now routinely engaging in the practice. Cunninligus, obviously, can be performed by either a man or a woman, or by both on a good night. Woman, of course are at a natural advantage when performing oral sex on her shared gender, however if you thoroughly prepare, take your time, and are sensitive to your partner(s) needs, you will have little trouble pleasing any woman you have a mind to. Being good at oral sex is a vital part of an man’s sexual repertoire. More women have achieved orgasm through oral sex than through intercourse and most women do not even reach climax via intercourse in their lifetime. Luckily, oral sex doesn’t hold the stigma that it did as little as thirty years ago.

As a man, you must understand that many women have a sense of embarrassment or anxiety about letting someone perform oral sex on them. Women live in a culture where they are judged on physicality much more than men. Jokes on vaginal odor and douche commercials create a cultural impression that the vagina is a “dirty” place. These lingering impressions and concerns prevents many women from allowing oral sex to performed on them and hinder their sexual enjoyment, and can delay or prevent orgasm.

Thus, you need to be completely comfortable with both the idea of and the performance of cunninlingus.  Otherwise, your partner will sense your ambivalence and will grow even more anxious. Put your partner at ease and assure her you love her genitals. Never comment on any odor!  If odor is present, nonchalantly recommend taking a hot shower or bath.

Before getting started, there are several hygiene issues that need to be addressed. And I mean your hygiene, not hers!  Men, make sure you shave ahead of time to avoid causing discomfort to the sensitive skin of the vulva. Make sure your fingernails are cut and trimmed. Wash your hands and face thoroughly so nothing spicy nor sticky on them will irritate the vagina.

Next, be sure your tongue muscles are up to the job, especially if you will be pleasuring more than one woman at a time. The tongue, like any other muscle, can strengthen with training. Below are a number of exercises that are helpful:

1.Stick your tongue as far out of your mouth as you are able, then try to touch your nose. Move your tongue around in sets of clockwise, then
counterclockwise, and up and finally down.
2.With a loose jaw, point your tongue while simultaneously trying to keep your tongue in constant contact with the top and bottom your mouth. Move your tongue in and out of your mouth. Try and keep your mouth closed and circling your tongue around inside of it while maintaining position.
3. Stick your tongue straight out of your mouth and keep it flat and relaxed. Slowly, while still in holding position, curl the wide tip of the tongue upwards, then downwards then side-to-side.
4. With your tongue relaxed and your mouth opened, move your tongue in and out of your mouth forwards and in both directions.

Before you get started, be aware of both you and your partner’s positions. Comfort will make all the difference if you are planning an extended session. Try having her lay on her back with her head on a pillow and one under her buttocks. Have her bend both knees and spread her legs apart.

Warning! Do not go right for the clitoris. That is a rookie mistake. Instead, start off by licking or kissing the inner thigh, or the pelvic bone over the mons pubis. Slowly move towards the vagina. Lick to the side of the vagina, then move over to gently involve the labia. An often pleasurable technique you could try would be to hold the inner and outer labia together with your lips, run the tongue between the inner and outer labia;and then repeat on the opposite side.

Try exploring the vagina, most of the nerve endings inside the vagina are around the opening and first couple inches inside, well within reach of your tongue. Try moving your tongue in and out or making circles with your tongue.  Or you can follow the advice of the late Sam Kennison, and write out the alphabets with your tongue.

Your partner should be nice and aroused at this point, with some moaning and writhing. If this is the case, go ahead and begin stimulating the clitoris. If not, rinse and repeat until she is ready.

Consider using your finger in conjunction with your tongue. When she is obviously aroused, and more importantly moist, then you can stimulate the clitoris while keeping your tongue in her vagina.  Start with a gentle rub. Another stimulating technique is to rub the G-Spot by gently penetrating the vagina two thirds up the front wall with a finger. I reiterate once again, make sure your nails are cut and trimmed!

Things should be getting pretty hot and heavy, signaling it is time to bring your tongue to her clitotis . Start slowly. Consider only licking the surrounding area, and only using your breath to stimulate the organ. Use slow strokes, horizontal, vertical, or both depending on your partners reaction. Increase the pace of movement as your partners arousal builds. Consider bigger slurps, like licking an ice cream cone, or work around the clitoris, strumming it backwards and forwards then side to side.
Flicking the clitoris with the tongue and spreading the labia apart a lot of guys learn to do from watching porn. Do not mimic this trick!  Once in a while you may find a women it drives wild, but many find the sensation too intense.
Once your partner is approaching orgasm, try giving the clitoris a quick little suck; pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting go. Be careful not to use your teeth. Place your entire mouth covering her vagina and gently suckle and move your head side to side. If you are lucky enough to be able to roll your tongue into a tube, try to do so around her clitoris and slide it back-and-forth.

A wide variety of flavored lubricants are available and can be used in conjunction with oral sex. Some of these heat up to add extra stimulation, but be cautious because some women can be ultra sensitive and experience discomfortor a burning on her vulva.To avoid causing a yeast infection, make sure to avoid using substances containing sugar around the vagina. Sucking on a mint when performing cunnilingus can create a very intense tingling sensation, but again, some women might find this unpleasant.

As a last word, remember, during the entire event, pay attention to your partner’s state of arousal. Many women are not comfortable discussing or are unable to articulate what they like. Watch, listen, and feel her responses, noting when her arousal increases, or when she shrinks away. Consider making mental notes afterwards on what your partners seemed to enjoy and what turned them off. Every woman is different, and you don’t to confuse your partners with one another.

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4 Responses

  1. Dave
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    Yeah but how do I do fractions?

  2. KungPaoKitten
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    I am guessing if you use P = 1C + 3P/ 4 + 2 then you’ll get….. I don’t fuckiing know?

  3. Jonomore69
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    Great article man!

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